4:45pm - So after coming back from the visit with Stella we were enjoying some quiet time together. I got a call from the transplant coordinator saying they had accepted an offer for a heart for me. The donor is a 25 year old female from a few states away, and it will be a dcd heart again (so coming in the box hooked up and beating). They said that based on what they know, it is a really good heart, but until they get their eyes on it they won't know for sure. Given what happened with the dry run, we are cautiously optimistic. We decided that we will tell our immediate family, but until we know its a go don't want to really shout it out to the world. We started to pack up my room, and a bunch of the things that Peter had brought me today we packed back up and had him take home. He then headed back to the house to pack an overnight bag (originally he was not staying over), and we are trying to get him an exception to the rule so he can at least be here when I go back to surgery. Since it would most likely be the middle of the night, there is a good chance of that.
I had thought it was weird that my doctor had not come in for the day yet, but he finally did. My guess is they knew there were whispers going on so wanted to wait until they knew more. He said that they think this heart looks better than the last one, but that it will take a few hours to fly there. The surgeon who was going to implant the heart last time is the one flying out to assess the heart and collect it. I really trust him, so I'm feel confident that he is only going to go forward if it is a good heart.
6:00pm - I had something to eat when they called as they said nothing to eat after 5:30pm. Now I'm sitting here waiting for Peter to get back. We plan to listen to a church service, pray, and try to go to bed early as we know people will be in and out all night. If things go well, I'll be going back for surgery in the middle of the night and by the morning it will have started.
9:50pm - Peter and I have been trying to sleep but it is hard. We are worried that they are not going to let him stay with me until I got back, and that he won't be allowed to be there when I wake up. I had a bit of a breakdown to the transplant coordinator, and she called the charge nurse. The charge nurse for my current floor said that since they are not busy, they will hold my room, and we can plan that Peter will come back after to "get my things". She offered to, if needed, send a nurse or other staff with him so he can stay as long as possible. She is calling the overnight nurse in charge and they are trying to get an exception for him. The other news is that when the transplant coordinator called, it turns out they are going to get a different heart for me.
Now it is a 29yo male who is closer. Apparently, right before they left for the other one they got this offer, and it is better in a few ways, including that it is not 'high risk', although it is dcd. My doctor felt it would be better overall, and he is on the way there as we speak. We were told that most likely I'd be brought over to the PACU around 2am and into the OR by 3am. After that, Peter can come back to my current room until he gets updates. If it is another dry run, hopefully they don't go as far and I'll come back to this room, where he will be. The charge nurse assured us that they won't just kick him out at 9am. And hopefully if it is a go, then he will know they started and can head home to deal with nervous energy.
By the time you would be reading this, the surgery has already started and it is a go. We know Peter will get updates, but are not sure if he will even be allowed in the building afterwards until it is time for me to discharge.
We wrote this together around 7pm (edited around 10pm), but I'm planning on posting this once Jodie actually get the call to go into the OR. I'll probably text parents and sibilings, but I doubt I'll be able to focus enough to write a blog post like this.